Sex scenes just don't do it for me...................

In order to talk about this subject, I first have to confess to watching Lifetime (television for women). Okay! I like it. So shoot me! I like the mostly happy ending, or at the least the fact that all the movies have a wrap-up ending. I don't like shows that leave on hanging. I also like that they play the same movies a lot so if I don't get to watch the whole thing at once there are ample opportunities to see the parts I missed.

The one complaint I have is for some reason directors feel compelled to throw in "their idea of a" sex scene. This is the number one reason why I watch television with a book beside me. If the "passion" goes over a second or two, I just read a few pages while they finish. Option number two is to channel surf during the sex scenes.

Well... Last night the movie was about a staying minister's wife, (Come on! Who makes this stuff up?) that hooks up with the bad-boy-turned-church-handi-man. In one scene they are literally (or close to it) moving the bed around the room they are going at it so hard. Just before this scene my youngest (reminder, she is almost 18, so I didn't jump to turn the channel) had come in to say goodnight. I felt compelled to tell her not to worry, "real sex, with someone you love, is not nearly that much work!" The scene reminded me of really bad soft porn, and I saw that my youngest had the right idea and went to bed.

Don't get me wrong, sex (with (my) Mister that is) has an important place in my life. It is just other people's sexcapades that I don't care/need to know anything about. I like a good love story as much as the next gal, but some things are better left to the imagination. In fact, in my opinion, it is leaving some things to the imagination that makes the story so good in the first place.

We all know that sex has crept into our culture, and our young people take so much about sex for granted. That is why parents no longer have a choice about talking to their children about sex. Talking to them is the only way they are going to get the straight picture, the picture/values that you as a parent want them to have. Make it age appropriate, and make it clear as to what you believe and what you want for them as they reach the age of maturity.

There might be better visual aids that Lifetime television, but for me, the movie turned into a teachable moment. Use what you got, or can get. The important thing is to talk to your kids. They are hearing about sex from a multitude of places. Make sure the most important place (you) gets heard loud and clear.